Whether your boo or a bestie breaks your heart, you’ll need some wise words to get through your mourning period. I can’t save you from experiencing this particular downfall. But I can offer you some tidbits to give you the motivation and confidence to finally get out of bed and get your life back.
The quotes about moving on will get you feeling okay again in no time.
1. “All I could do was cry. I was losing the man that I love. And all I could do was cry.”–Etta James
The day after a breakup consists of all things sad. Tears, Doritos and romantic comedies fill your nights and it genuinely seems like someone left your eye faucets on. Just let yourself wallow for a day or two. It’s part of the process.
2. “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”–Kathleen Casey
“I feel like regardless of how something ends you always have the right to be sad because you’ve spent a lot of time caring about them, but that shouldn’t dictate how you move on,” Temple University sophomore Caroline McCloskey said. Yeah, breakups inevitably suck, but five years from now you’ll have something else on your mind. Your heart will heal and you’ll be 10 times the person you were because of this one experience.
3. “This too shall pass like every night that’s come before it.”–Yolanda Adams
Nothing lasts forever. Your pain and turmoil will fade away. Your beautiful laugh and genuine smile will soon return. Soon enough, you’ll be thinking to yourself, “What was I thinking dating him?” And not necessarily because you found somebody new, but because you grew so much as a human being. Your joy will return in time.
4. “When I had you to myself, I didn’t want you around. Those pretty faces always makes you stand out in a crowd but someone picked you from the bunch, one glance is all it took. Now it’s much too late for me to take a second look.”–The Jackson 5
“I think a lot of people are comfortable with their exes. They already have a connection with them and it’s easier to go back to somebody you’ve already built a strong connection with rather than meeting new people and putting yourself out there which is hard,” Temple junior Jane Fiordeliso said. I’m not saying couples should never get back together, but a lot of times people come back after discovering the the dull grass on the other side. When you want to get back with your ex, pinpoint the reason why you really want to go back.
5. “You have a right to be angry. It’s not negative or wrong. You don’t have to condone someone’s actions or pretend you’re okay with them in order to be a good spiritual ”–Lori Deschene
Trying to cover up your feelings will only prolong the process. You saw and talked to that special someone everyday and now they aren’t a part of your life at all. That brings up a range of emotions. If you’re angry, talk about it with family and friends. Get it all out.
6. “I’ve got two two letters for you. One of them is F and the other one is U.”- Miley Cyrus
Preferably, you should say this in the company of family and friends. Anger and hurt can take your heart hostage during a breakup and for a period of time and that makes you ex look like a bullseye for your insults. Let it all out with the people you trust rather than leaving your ex some sort of bad impulsive voicemail.
7. “So you bought me a car, he can buy that too. I can take care of myself and I can find someone to do it too, baby.”–Ciara
You can replace your ex within minutes. In the meantime you can support yourself just fine. That means you have it all. Turns out, you didn’t need your ex to live a comfortable and fulfilled life.
8. “Just know that you have the power to move beyond your pain, when you’re ready. You have the power to find lessons in your heartache, gains in your losses, and reasons to forgive.”–Lori Deshene
Don’t stay in a place of anger, hurt, jealousy or whatever toxic emotion roams through your body. Go ahead and stay there for a moment, but after you tucker yourself out from tearing up all of your photos together, move on. “I try to forgive them right away and find grace in the situation. It doesn’t have to be the end. Forgiveness is key,” Temple freshman Eileen Armani said. Life continues and you got to move with it.
9. “When life puts you in tough situations, don’t say ‘why me’. Say ‘try me.’”–John Assaraf
Moving on requires a lot of strength and persistence. When you see something that reminds you of your ex, replace the thought with something more positive. Don’t get taken out of the game so easily. Put your dukes up and fight for your happiness.
10. “If you didn’t love him, this never would have happened. But you did. And accepting that love and everything that followed it is part of letting it go.”–Sarah Dessen
You loved your ex and you miss them. Be straight up with yourself and accept your current reality. Accept the experiences you both had, seek out the lessons and continue to move forward. Let your family and friends know that you are hurting and that you need support.
11. “I only give you a hard time cause I can’t go on and pretend like I haven’t tried to forgive this but I’m much too full of resentment.”–Beyoncé
You’re angry because someone you love hurt you in one way or another. Don’t try to overcome your feelings too quickly and become friends with your ex. Rushing your feelings away slows down the process of healing. Trying to stay friends or stay in contact with your ex might hurt more than help right now. Tell your ex to give you some space.
12. “Don’t you know I’ve tried and I’ve tried to get you off my mind, but it don’t get no better as each day goes by and I’m lost and confused I’ve got nothing to lose. Hope to hear from you soon. P.S. I’m still not over you.”–Rihanna
Getting over someone takes time. Throwing out old photos of you together may seem too hard right now. All of the good times you two shared play on repeat in your mind and every part of you hurts. Just leave those thoughts in your mind or in an undedicated song, like Rihanna did.
13. “I think I’ve had enough, I might get a little drunk. I say what’s on my mind, I might do a little time ’cause all of my kindness is taken for weakness.”–Rihanna
An ex has the tendency to try your nerves, whether intentionally or not. They tend to move on quicker and flash their new bae on Instagram or flaunt on Snapchat about how great they are doing a few days after you broke up. All these things make a breakup much worse and cause our anger to skyrocket. But try to just rise above it (and maybe delete your social media apps for a while).
14. “How could you be so Dr. Evil You’re bringing out a side of me that I don’t know. I decided we weren’t gonna speak so why we up 3 a.m. on the phone?”–Kanye West
How could a person that promised to love you now act so cruel? This alone can bring up a side of you that you never knew existed. One day, you decide to cut your ex off completely and the next you agree to a long phone call decided how to make this thing work. Just another stage of a breakup.
15. “I know you don’t care too much but I still care.”–Beyoncé
When you’re trying to save the relationship, but your partner has already checked out, Beyoncé gets you. While you remain invested in the relationship, your ex has already disconnected himself and went off doing God knows what. Well, it takes two to tango. If one person isn’t interested in saving the relationship, then there’s nothing you can do about it. It’s a hard truth, but you deserve someone who is fully invested in the relationship.
16. “Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away.”–Unknown
A breakup can take a real toll on our self-esteem. We start asking ourselves, “Why didn’t they want me?” or “Why aren’t I good enough?” You don’t need anyone else to see your inner beauty but you. Spend this time to do some self-discovery to figure out what you enjoy and what makes you happy. Improve upon yourself during this time alone.
17. “I bet you start loving me soon as I start loving someone else somebody better than you.”–Ciara
They always want what they can’t have. It seems once you start to stand up on your own two legs, your ex comes comes gallivanting back into your life. Now you have to debate whether or not to get back together. Stick with the new boo.
18. “Suddenly the moment’s here. I embrace my fears. All that I have been carrying all these years. Do I risk it all? Come this far just to fall?”–Christina Aguilera
A new opportunity for love or friendship has presented itself and you hesitate because of the pain you endured before. Don’t let someone else’s mistakes dictate any more of your life. Love is a leap of faith. You may get hurt again and have to start from square one. But wouldn’t you rather love deeply and get hurt than never love at all?
19. “I gave him everything I was, but he can keep that. I like everything I am now better anyway and… he can’t have this.”–Cici B
Eventually, you regain your confidence and you start discovering a better newly renovated version of yourself that your ex simply doesn’t deserve. “I felt like I was able to walk a little bit taller and be the person I used to be. Severing the ties was very difficult but once I got over it, I felt refreshed,” Temple freshman Natalie Ross said. You don’t have to be mad or seeking vengeance on your ex to realize you’ve outgrown them.
20. “I could’ve sworn I was telling the truth when I told you I didn’t miss you.”–Iain S. Thomas
You experience a sense of freedom once you completely get over your ex. You will notice the blooming flowers just outside your house and the colorful sunset outside your car window because your mind broke free. You aren’t bound by any grief anymore. Finally, you’re free to live again. Strive for this goal.
21. “Me myself and I, that’s all I got in the end. That’s what I found out. And it ain’t no need to cry. I took a vow that from now on I’m gon’ be my own best friend.”–Beyoncé
Spending time with yourself will help you find a new confidence. You become comfortable in your own skin and begin to realize you don’t need anyone else to bring about that completion. And your new partner will find that incredibly attractive.
HOW STUDENTS REALLY GET OVER A BREAKUP
“I prioritize my friends and myself. My friends helped me get through it the best because they’re the ones I usually talk to about the whole process. I spent as much time with them without masking the fact that I was upset. You can accept your emotions. You feel better when you talk it out.” – Temple University sophomore Caroline McCloskey
“I stopped talking to them. I blocked them on all social media. I focused on meeting people and hanging out with my friends, which helped me a lot. I did and experienced new things.” – Temple University junior Jane Fiordeliso
“I tried to focus on myself instead of why did we breakup? Was I the problem? I figured out what I wanted to fix about myself and worked on who I am. I would try to focus on the good times and the lessons that I learned from the relationship. What did that person give to me even if it was bad or good. What did I learn about me? I used self-reflection to take away from the emotion.” – Temple University senior Shannon Murphy
“When my friend went through a really bad breakup we threw a movie night for her and she was able to talk it out with us and we were able to offer her a sense of comfort and belonging. Knowing that there are people that are still there for you is really important.” – Temple University freshman Natalie Ross
“Knowing that you are your own person. You don’t need someone else to make you feel complete. There are people that can build you up, but at the end of the day you are your own person and finding grace and worth in yourself is what’s most important. You don’t need somebody else to show that to you.” – Temple University freshman Eileen Armani
